You’re not a failure because your spouse cheated
It may be hard to believe that you aren’t a failure when your spouse cheats but you’re not!
However, this thinking can lead you down the path of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The more you think you failed, say you failed, believe you failed, will end with you failing.
And guess who won’t be to blame? Your spouse/ex-spouse!
But you will be!
You’re not a failure because your spouse cheated
We only fail if we allow ourselves to fail
When your spouse cheats and/or you get divorced it’s easy to:
Blame – point the finger at your spouse and blame them for all your problems from that point forward.
Quit – Give up on everything. Your appearance, your health (mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual), and perseverance.
Blaming and quitting is a defense, shielding you from dealing with something more internal.
You can’t expect to blame them for cheating on you, as the reason why 3-4 years later you are still underachieving in life which is due to you quitting.
How to prevent failure thinking
Since we now know blaming and quitting are easy to do but are just a defense allowing you to escape from an issue.
In contrast, there comes a point where we can no longer blame and quit.
You can run but you can’t hide!
With purpose, run at the issue and take it head-on.
Your spouse cheated? Ok!
Since you can’t go back and change it, what can you do to move on?
What can you do to always be progressing?
Think of ways to make you better!
Today you need to wake up feeling 1% better than you did yesterday.
That can be through learning, trying something you always wanted, or working out.
You are not a failure!
FINAL THOUGHTS
You’re not a failure because your spouse/ex-spouse cheated
However, how you decide to live going forward will decide if you will fail.
No one controls our success in life but us.
As always…
Be Great! Be You!
A.B.P. ALWAYS BE PROGRESSING!
BRANDON (B-STEEZY the Dad)
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I’m Brandon, the Founder and Divorced Dad behind this blog. This blog is about being a divorced single dad. I’m here to help bring tips and laughs about parenting and divorce.