PLEASE STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND ACCEPT YOUR DIVORCE
So please stop feeling sorry for yourself and accept your divorce may not be the warmest greeting but I mean…
Either your wife cheated or your husband cheated…
Unfortunately, which is why you’re here!
So now what?
Your first step is to ACCEPT IT!
You may have already gone through your version of the 5 stages of grief.
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
OR
You are about to go through them.
But did you catch that? Notice how acceptance is the 5th and final stage of grief?
More on that in a bit.
It’s common to go through the stages.
I did! ⇓⇓
Can you see the difference from when I hadn’t accepted it compared to when I have accepted it?
The difference is about 60 lbs
Accepting it will allow you to do the things you need to for you and really mean it and commit to improving yourself.
PLEASE STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND ACCEPT YOUR DIVORCE
How?
By making yourself invincible!
Not physically invincible as in you can run through fire or bullets bounce off you but you have to be mentally and spiritually invincible! To deal with the highs and lows.
Because you will go through them and when you do you want to be mentally ready.
So what do I suggest?
1. Don’t expect people to understand what you are going through (unless they have been through it they don’t get it)
2. Find people that have gone through similar divorces because they will understand your “pain” and can share some insights on what they went through so that you know what to expect.
3. Get rid of any animosity towards your ex and don’t allow yourself to show it towards them.
4. You don’t have to like what was done but you have to move on because they already have.
5. Accept that it’s over and that you can’t change what happened, to benefit you. Start focusing on what it will take for you to become the best you. (Be honest about where you lacked in the relationship and improve that for your next one if you choose to have one.)
FINAL THOUGHTS
Accepting your divorce is over isn’t going to be easy but it will happen eventually.
It can be through the long drawn-out process of the 5 Stages of Grief or you can take the initiative to accept it on your own and help to make sure you are mentally and spiritually invincible sooner.
It’s not a full-proof plan but if you could save yourself some stress and self-sabotaging behaviors why wouldn’t you want to do what you could to be prepared.
You will still need time to heal! Go at your own pace!
As always…
Be Great! Be You!
A.B.P. ALWAYS BE PROGRESSING!
BRANDON (B-STEEZY the Dad)
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I’m Brandon, the Founder and Divorced Dad behind this blog. This blog is about being a divorced single dad. I’m here to help bring tips and laughs about parenting and divorce.