Hoping They Fail is not going to help you! Here are 3 Reasons Why

1. It may or may not happen so how long are you willing to wait for it to happen? Why?

How long are you really willing to wait this out? 3 mos, 6 mos, a year, 3 years, I’m sure you get the point that since we can’t tell the future this puts us in a very vulnerable place.

To be real, this ain’t a place to be in.

Because it’s self-defeating, and disappointing if you expect it to happen and nothing does happen.

In the end, you will start asking the question “Why is your ex getting everything they wanted when they are the ones that cheated and treated you the way they did?”

Can you see the damage that can be caused by focusing too much attention on this?

2. As long as you are focused on that you can’t focus on yourself.

I’m a firm believer that you have to focus on yourself and make yourself better after taking that knockout blow across the chin.

What knockout blow? The one that involves your spouse having an affair, getting divorced, and now becoming a divorced single parent!

At this point, you need to be focused on yourself.

The focus should be on how and what you need to do to be the best you for you and for your kids.

I refer to this as Looking out for #1 so in some ways you got to be a little selfish in looking out for yourself.

You can’t do this if you are focused on if your ex’s new relationship will fail.

3. When has hoping something bad happens to somebody else ever gained you positive results?

I was taught growing up not to wish bad on people because it will come back on you.

Which makes the answer to the question… Never!!

If you are spending time hoping for bad results for your ex guess what??? You will be the one with the bad results.