Focused On Me, No Time To Focus On Them
Did you know when you are focused on you, you don’t have time to focus on them?
How are you dealing with the reoccurring thoughts of being cheated on and being betrayed?
It’s a tough pill to swallow right?
Well, it gets better but I’m going, to be honest, the thoughts of it don’t go away.
I mean the thoughts do decrease over time but it’s still something that crosses my mind at least once a day.
Today’s blog is going to cover two things. Mental toughness and positive thinking.
Focused On Me, No Time To Focus On Them
After all, it is a life-changing situation and in most cases a life-altering event.
Mentally, you have to train yourself to be positive, think positive, and stay positive even during some of the toughest times.
You have to become mentally tough. I prefer you need to be mentally invincible. (Be positive about the ups and stay positive during the downs, never too much for either result).
It’s easier said than done, however it is definitely possible but you can’t do it alone.
Make sure you have someone to talk to about what’s on your mind.
STAY POSITIVE
Also, I recommend doing positive thinking exercises.
If you need help you can google positive thinking techniques for examples or you can go on YouTube and search for positive thinking videos.
I have used both.
Below is one of my favorite positive thinking/inspirational videos to watch.
If watching videos ain’t your thing then:
- Stay in a constant state of gratitude
- Say positive things about yourself
- Write out 3 positive things about your day every night
- Get around positive people
MENTAL PEP TALK & FINAL THOUGHTS
It’s been 5 years since I found out about my ex-wife cheating on me and I still wake up from time to time thinking about how wrong and messed up it was.
But as I’m laying there I got two options.
1.) Dwell on it and let it ruin my mood or 2.) think about how far I’ve made it or what I’m going to do to improve me.
People do messed up stuff all the time.
I’ve done it and I’m sure I’ll probably make a mistake and do something else messed up which is why I can’t be too judgmental.
We will never get better if we focus on judging others.
With that said, we can only focus on ourselves, which is the only way we get improve.
When we become mentally strong or, as I say, mentally invincible, we don’t need to think about or focus on others.
If they don’t like me… So what!
They got a problem with my colorful socks… Who cares!
I’m doing me! I know I’m a likable person and I’m going to get the results in life I seek out to get as long as I work hard to get it.
There were a lot of I’s in that last sentence for a reason!
It’s because… And say it out loud to yourself
“I have to focus on me, so I don’t have time to focus on them”
That right there is a cure to most of our biggest problems after a spouse cheats on you or leaves you for someone else.
Unfortunately, we become mentally incapable of believing in ourself.
We self doubt and to feel better about ourself we judge others.
Judging others is always a sign of people who don’t focus on themselves or feel good about themselves!
Likewise, when you are focused on you and being the best you, there is no time to focus on them!
As always…
Be Great! Be You!
A.B.P. ALWAYS BE PROGRESSING!
BRANDON (B-STEEZY the Dad)
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I’m Brandon, the Founder and Divorced Dad behind this blog. This blog is about being a divorced single dad. I’m here to help bring tips and laughs about parenting and divorce.