If your spouse cheated, I’m sure it’s caught you by surprise. I know it did to me when I found out my now ex-wife cheated.

Funny thing is I talked myself out of leaving and decided to give things another try.

The question is WHY?

Remember that question because it’s important to have a good answer when you been put in this situation.

5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Stay… If Your Spouse Cheated

1. FOR THE KIDS

Yeah sure most people would tell you that’s exactly the reason why you should stay and give things another shot “for the kids”.

However, staying for the kids is a poor excuse to stay with someone that will betray you so easily.

2. THEY ARE NOT WILLING TO PUT IN THE EFFORT

Not willing to go to marriage counseling or unwilling to do the marriage counseling work.

Clearly, a sign they aren’t willing to put in the effort to right the wrong.

Huge Red Flag!

And they’ll probably do it again.

3. FINANCIAL

Self-explanatory but many spouses cheat because of financial reasons.

For example, because they pay the bills, make the money, blah, blah, blah, it becomes a power thing.

4. WON’T FIND ANYBODY ELSE/CAN’T LOVE ANYMORE

Let’s be real! A spouse cheating on you is a bad, bad deal but if you are worried that you won’t find anybody else because of whatever reason below:

a. have kids
b. let yourself go
c. can’t trust

and you decide to work things out based on these situations you’re setting yourself up for failure, in my opinion.

I am speaking from experience though.

Fortunately, it didn’t take long for it to hit me like Homer Simpson “Doh!” I had messed up but it did lead to more pain and suffering and maybe some mental scars to the ego.

5. THEY DON’T RESPECT YOU

This is probably the most important.

If your spouse was brave enough to hit the sheets with someone else THEY DON’T RESPECT YOU.

Consequently, and more than likely you staying and trying to work it out will lead to them not respecting you more!!

Again I speak from experience.

Remember, when you caught them?

Did they:
-Tell the truth or lie?
-Blame you instead of being accountable?

If your answer was lie and blamed you or failed to be accountable, then either one of these answers is the sign of someone not willing to take the blame or be honest and shows a lack of respect for you as a person and for your intelligence.

Enough said! 

FINAL THOUGHTS

Unfortunately, my knowledge about this topic is due to personal experience.

These 5 reasons why you shouldn’t stay if your spouse cheated, are all reasons that I either used to determine staying or are the typical reasons people decide to stay.

This is knowledge I wish I would have known when I first got hit with the reality.

Please know the answer to “WHY” you want to stay and if these are your reasons think about the 5 reasons and see how they fit to your situation and make the best decision for you.

As always…

Be Great! Be You!

And A.B.P. ALWAYS BE PROGRESSING!

BRANDON